Boldly Go Solo

"Tourist cities are useless with single diners, especially women of a certain age." This is a line from a funny article by a woman who shares her strategy for a "successful dining-alone experience," in a Mail Online (British) story.

First tip. Have a drink before going out. For confidence. Okay, that cracked me up. But I understand that it could help.

Then, after you choose a place to dine, if the waiter is a "prat" and seats you at a bad table and won't switch you to a better one, even though the place is empty, turn around and leave. And "practise your flounce" as you exit. (I'm not sure I've got a flounce. Men, skip this bit.)

As for how to deal with your waiter, a "delicately judged bit of charm goes a long way." I love how the Brits express themselves. But really, is the waiter going to be that put off by a solo diner? I haven't found that at all. Maybe I don't eat in places that are high class enough?

A story in the Boston Globe tells solo diners to "forgo the pity, forget the BlackBerry and embrace the possibilities." I heartily agree with points one and three. But I see no reason not to check my BlackBerry or read or write something while I'm waiting for service. After all, I'm not being rude. I don't have anyone to talk to! Until the waiter shows up from time to time.

The Globe story is drearier. Talking about the "stigma" of eating alone.  "What do you even look at when you're in a restaurant by yourself?" She mentions "the sense that you've got 'Friendless' tattoed on your forehead." Oh, please!

This feels like a major bout of insecurity and self-consciousness. Is it really THAT bad? Do you really think the world is judging your whole life and character because you're seated alone? Thinking that you must be incredibly pathetic? I think not. (see other solo dining posts.)

If dining alone is that troublesome, do take out. One way or another you will survive, be fed for another day and be ready for sightseeing, hiking or whatever else it was you set out on your trip for to begin with!

Photos: Ellen Perlman

Bar at Devon Seafood Grill, Hershey, Pennsylvania. Dessert tray at same.